Personal, Traditional or Church standards

This week, based on my Pastors kind instructional sermon, I discovered the difference between something I hold as a standard personally and what is a Traditional or family standard or church standard.
My church standards demand that I honor the truth that the Word of God as infallible, that Christ is God and all things have been made for and by Him! That Jesus is the Son of God and was slain to pay the debt of sin for all mankind once and for all.
My family standards are not such that I can hold many of them dear. But there are somethings that I have developed as a result of family standards such as the gift of hospitality. Both my grandmothers were very different but both knew how to honor their guests. My father honored me by a standing Saturday night date for 7 years! "No jeans", he'd say, "At least look like you care or we are not going." I always wore a dress and a smile! Daddy was good as making me feel like every date was an event! He always included a good dose of laughter! So I learned that really bonding with my children and making a really good relationship with them demands devoted time and a little fun! When I was 13 years old, I over heard Daddy cancel a trip to Brazil to go camping with me because he said "I am concerned about some decisions she may be making". He stayed that weekend and we went camping and Daddy stayed up all night debating the relevance of the Bible with a 13 year old girl. I was honored and felt the most important thing Daddy had on his schedule. That weekend set a precedence in my heart that lasts to this day!
And then there are somethings that I get to decide. Do I drink a glass of wine with dinner?  A glass of wine with dinner will not send me to hell! Oh wait for it!!!! Do you hear the shattering of the religion that has governed some of us? hear it another, sacred cow tipped?
You can drink a glass a wine and still have a secure relationship with Jesus. Do you decide or judge the righteousness of another based on their personal standards? Is that your right?  If someone you know smokes, for example, do you have the self righteous audacity to decide whether that smoker is in right standing with God? Are they qualified based on the standards they have set for themselves?
I can hear the cadence of a new revolution! Let FREEDOM ring! We all get to decide what are the standards that shape our personal lives. What character do we show others. What are the things that mean very little and what are the things that mean everything? But the bottom line is,WE DECIDE FOR OURSELVES. Hopefully we decide out of the abundance of our love relationship with Jesus and I believe we do.
Freedom from religion for those of us that love our Savior would mean that we can let others learn to love him free from our judgement and free from our playing Holy Spirit! Freedom means that we quit judging ourselves based on our performance and move into the freedom of living out of the abundance of a loving relationship with the ONE who loved us FULLY first!